10 more days!!

Sorry I have not written in a while. School has picked up and I have been so busy. I am almost done though! Friday is my last day and it is my last final. I could not be happier!

Well, we are only 10 days away. I can not believe it. I am beyond excited and just can not wait to marry my best friend. I have a few things left to do but almost everything is done. It is such a good feeling to not have to do too many last minute things.

I mainly just wanted to share something with you from Scott's really good family friend. She shared this on facebook and it brought me to tears. I have been trying to figure out exactly how to be a great wife. I know I won't always meet all of Scott's needs or expectations but I know if we are always fighting for eachother and not against eachother we will have a healthy marriage. And of course most importantly as long as God is in the center he will carry us through any struggle we come across.

I hope you enjoy this. The lady who wrote it had a huge impact on Scott's life. She is a wonderful lady who has a huge heart for God. She titled it The Secrets to staying married: The happy part is earned not granted:

1. Never ever lose sight of God. The minute one of the two of you stop chasing Him is the moment you open the door to trouble to join your marriage. The first one to disconnect from their quiet time with God is the one who will lose their sensitivity to the Holy Spirit and start bringing chaos and confusion into the marriage. Please take note: selfishness, worry, anger, lust, always seem like a good idea when the Spirit of God is not there to remind us of the torment of those lies.

2. The filter –Every decision you make in a marriage will not affect only you. The truth is that every harsh word or selfish deed will stay upon your children’s children in some way. Knowing that ahead of time helps to secure the filter over the mouth and mind. Know this know - if you aren’t mature enough to hold your tongue, then you’re not mature enough to marry no matter how old you are.

3. The Power of Choice- The power of choice is always within your grasp. You choose to forgive. You choose to be happy. You choose to give positive feedback. You choose to go the other mile. You choose to be gracious. You choose to love. You choose to remember and rehearse why you fell in love with them in the first place.

4.The power of Love-Love is not just a feeling. Love never gives up.Love cares more for others than for self. Love doesn’t want what it doesn’t have.Love doesn’t strut,Doesn’t have a swelled head, Doesn’t force itself on others,Isn’t always “me first,”Doesn’t fly off the handle,Doesn’t keep score of the sins of others,Doesn’t revel when others grovel,Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth, Puts up with anything, Trusts God always,Always looks for the best,Never looks back,
But keeps going to the end

5. The power of Integrity- Integrity is not just for when things are going well. We seem to have no problem with this value until our partner stops showing it and then that seems to be our get out of jail free card for losing our own. That would not be the definition of integrity.
integrity is the quality of being honest and having strong moral principles; moral uprightness : he is known to be a man of integrity.


6. The power of your vows - To state this bluntly I stood before God and promised till death do us part, not till I am tired of his stupidity or he is tired of mine. Stupid/selfishness tries to butt into every marriage and it takes the one who remembers their vows the most in those moments to fight for the love that is possible, the future that God dreams of, and the legacy we leave behind, even the reputation of God.

7. The power of His promises.- God is faithful to redeem every relationship that turns to him for support. There are times I didn’t believe in my spouse but I was believing in the power of God for my spouse. Happy is never really reached before hardship, anything before that just the fun and infatuation stage. Marriage is won when we choose to die to our rights and believe God for our spouse. Happy is born on the other side of disillusionment and sometimes betrayal.

God is faithful.

8. Now the fun stuff.- Kiss often, Talk all the time, Have great sex as often as possible. Be creative when you can. Never stop touching each other. Never stop appreciating. Eat great meals together. Share high up and high down. Share everything. Keep no secrets.Think of each other through out the day. Do that thing (what ever that special thing he or she loves) often. My man brings me coffee in bed anytime I am in there longer than he is. : ) My thing.Pray often and together. This is a huge bonding practice.Play well together.Have fun and never ever stop laughing. Always remember how they like to receive love (love language) and speak to them in their love language often.